Are you ready to build core confidence and make life-changing decisions to better your life and end all that misery?
Enough is enough, it’s time to silence that self-doubt and believe in yourself.
I've been like you....Insisting I'd feel more confident when I lost twenty pounds or got my Masters degree or found my ideal partner. I've held myself back by saying things like: "I'll start dating when I lose 15 pounds. Or I'll apply for that amazing job once I have a few more years experience." I've dated 'beneath' me because someone good enough intimidated me. I've taken others' opinions and crappy comments to heart and played small as a result. I've kept quiet in meetings afraid I'd sound stupid or be dismissed. But all I felt was stuck, miserable, angry and unsatisfied.
What I realized after so much suffering was I didn't have good reason to put myself on hold or to make myself small. I'm a good human (most of the time). I have good intentions. I have survived the death of my parents when I was a teen, many tumultuous years, marriage to an addict and alcoholic, divorce and single motherhood and a career change. I'm not saying I did it all with grace, but I did it! I survived. I took chances and earned degrees, and had good and bad relationships and kept learning and growing and forgiving myself and I just keep swimming. Yes, I have had regrets but, when was I going to give myself space for "good enough? or "I'm doing the best I can in this moment?" Give myself some compassion for heaven's sake?!
It's taken me 50 years and I don't want it to take you as long. Part of my purpose is taking my hard-earned lessons, and my hard-earned wisdom to help others to find a less painful path. I've had a lot of experiences--good and bad--and they would be meaningless if I couldn't help someone else find a nugget in them. So that's why I'm here.
I have the Master's degree in Social Work. (I also have a BFA in Graphic Design, if that impresses you). I changed careers as a single mom when my son was 5. Everyone thought I was nuts, but I did it anyway. I was trained by Martha Beck in life coaching in 2016. I became certified in EMDR therapy in 2018 and an Approved Consultant in 2019. I was a graphic designer in corporate finance for 5 years, a school social worker for 16 years and have had a private therapy practice for 16 years. I have dabbled in Buddhism which helped a lot with that compassion thing and found myself engaged to a woman this last year (Glennon Doyle anyone?) Oh, and she has four young children! It's been a ride. And I still have all that weight to lose so...
If I can do it, you can too!
Imagine what it would feel like if there were no more “What-ifs” holding you back? Imagine what it would feel like to double down on your dreams and goals versus sitting on the sidelines and feeling inspired by others. You can be inspired by your journey and be the hero of your own story.
Sure, I’ve been afraid. I’ve thought about worst-case scenarios. I’ve gotten tired and wanted to give up many times. But I know one thing to be true. I believe in my ability to figure things out. And that confidence has kept me going.
Enough is enough. Stop overthinking and start believing in yourself!